Capturing the Last Stages of Life
Death its always a subject that I notice lots of people tend to avoid, but at the same time, like tax, it is a certainty.
Whilst I have been primarily a wedding photographer, I have also been blessed to meet and capture people in their last stage of life.
I have also noticed that photos stop. Until recently photographing at a funeral would be considered improper and rude.
However, whilst attending loved ones funerals I have seen the increase in iPhones taking photos. I have had to ask myself and even I have made comments as to why??
Stopping and thinking about it is a major event. I had to change my mindset. I have had to stop making judgements and ask myself whilst death is final and sad, it’s also a reflection of a persons life, so why should it not be captured, it’s a memory.
Families are all together at weddings, and funerals are another certainty where most families are together.
As a person, my personality is warmhearted, compassionate, ethical and real. I am in fact a life documentary photographer. So I asked myself these questions:
‘Why do we document every major event in our lives, but treat death as such a taboo subject? Should we not be celebrating our loved one’s achievements? Why do we stop capturing as soon as our loved ones are gone?’
The answer came to me, it’s grief. We have all experienced grief, it blurs our thinking, it makes us forget about everything, it consumes us and blurs our lateral thinking.
Please don’t get me wrong, everyone grieves in different ways, there is no right or wrong way.
I remember before my grandfather passing a connection actually it was very eerie, a 1 min look in my grandfathers eyes he wanted me to know it was nearly time. On the 10th June, when he passed I was woken at 5.20am very sharply, something was not right and I just knew, I immediately contacted the hospital and although I should not have been told, I was.
I think the nurse was in shock she simply advised he had passed less than 5 mins ago, I didn’t need to be told, I already knew.
One of the most blessed moments I have had is capturing the last few moments of terminally ill couples in a non obtrusive way.
Delivering these files to family is heartwarming as it gives them something to remember when grief has taken it away.
I have sat on this for sometime – do I offer these services? I have decided in 2020 it’s important, so I will be offering these services.
Whilst funerals are sad, they are in fact a big part of a persons life and in many cultures, death celebrates the persons life.
I am completely aware this service is not for everyone. However, I have been asked quite recently if I would offer this.
By changing my mindset, it has helped me understand what can be important to families – providing a physical memento to assist in the healing process and to look back on things that they may have missed.
So, if this is something you would like yourself to have or your loved ones, please don’t hesitate to contact and make a obligation free appointment.
Writing this blog really had me reflecting on how I want to be remembered.
There will be a range of packages available, from small captures to packages that include an album.
Capturing that final event of a person’s life is such a precious tribute to families. They can look back and appreciate that celebration of their loved one’s life, whilst healing from the grief and remembering whether they want to is their choice in that final moment of a person’s life.
Please remember, this is not for everyone. However, I am offering this service to people who may like it. Toowoomba, Darling downs & Brisbane areas.
Please feel free to contact me for more information.